Written by babyface (1995) Performed by mary j. blige While all the time that i was lovin' you You were busy lovin' yourself I would stop breathin' if you told me to Now you're busy loving someone else Eleven years, out of my life Besides the kids i've got nothing to show Wasted my years, a fool of a wife I shoulda left your a** long time ago Well i'm not gon' cry I'm not gon' cry, i'm not gon' shed no tears No i'm not gon' cry, it's not the time 'cause you're not worth my tears I was your lover and your secretary Working every day of the week Was at the job when no one else was there Helping you get on your feet Eleven years of sacrifice And you can leave me at the drop of a dime Swallowed my fears, stood by your side I shoulda left your a** a thousand times Hook I know there are no guarantees In love you take your chances But somehow it seems unfair to me Look at the circumstances Through sickness and health, 'til d**h do us part Those were the words that we said from our hearts So now when you say that you're leaving me I don't get that part I was your lover and your secretary Working every day of the week Was at the job when no one else was there Helping you get on your feet Eleven years of sacrifice And you can leave me at the drop of a dime Swallowed my fears, stood by your side I shoulda left your a** a thousand times Hook