When my mother's older cousin and best friend, Dorothy, comes with her children, they run off saying they can't understand the way Hope, Dell and I speak. Y'all go too fast, they say. And the words get all pushed together. They say they don't feel like playing with us little kids. So they leave us to walk the streets of Nicholtown when we can't leave the porch. We watch them go, hear Cousin Dorothy say, Don't you knuckleheads get into trouble out there. Then we stay close to Cousin Dorothy, make believe we're not listening when she knows we are. Laughing when she laughs, shaking our own heads when she shakes her. You know how you have to get those trainings, she says, an duo mother nods. They won't let you sit at the counters without them. Have to know what to do when those people come at you. She has a small space between her teeth like my mother's space, and Hope's and Dell's, too. She is tall and dark-skinned, beautiful and broad shouldered.
She wears gloves and dark-colored dresses made for her by a seamstress in Charleston. The trainings take place in the basements of churches and the back rooms of stores, on long car trips and anywhere else where people can gather. They learn how to change the south without violence, how to not be moved by the evil actions of others, how to walk slowly but with deliberate steps. How to sit at counters and be cursed at without cursing back, have food and drinks poured over them without standing up and hurting someone. Even the teenagers get trained to sit tall, not cry, swallow back fear. But Lord, Cousin Dorothy says. Everybody has a line. When I'm walking up to that lunch counter and taking my seat, I pray to God, don't let anybody spit on me. I can be Sweet Dorothy seven days a week, twenty-four hours a day as long as nobody crosses that line. Because if they do, this nonviolent movement is over!